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Dear Friend, Of course, you want to save your relationship. But you're confused, afraid, and you don't know where to turn. You want to save your relationship more than anything else, and you should! That's where I come in. For over 45 years I've been working in San Antonio, Texas, saving thousands of marriages. It's been my lifelong career. Over that 45 years, I've discovered exactly what works and what doesn't work when it comes to saving a relationship. Keep reading, and I'll show you exactly what to say and do for your situation. The first thing we need to do, is get you to understand what you're up against. The competition you're facing as you do everything you can to stop your divorce or separation as quickly as possible. Part of the competition is our addiction to strategies that never work... Here are four strategies that never work – yet people always try: Which these strategies are you trying right now? 1. The first is to give them reassurance. “I've changed. I won't be controlling anymore. I won't lie to you anymore. I won't have another affair,” and so forth. The efforts to give them reassurance. This almost never works. 2. The second strategy is to tell them over and over again, “I love you.” That never works. 3. The third strategy is arguing, reasoning, trying to talk them into feeling different or doing different. That never works. Always agree. If you talk about where they are wrong, they become more wrong. And if you talk about where they are right, they immediately become less wrong. See, most people don't know that if you agree and sound sincere to the other person, do not defend yourself, do not explain yourself, they will defend you. They will reverse their position. Amazing! It works like magic! A person says, “You know, I want a divorce.” “I understand. I agree.” It looks you're moving faster toward a divorce, but you're getting at the roots of why they want a divorce. they want a divorce because you're always disagreeing with them. They do not want a divorce from somebody who's always pleasant and is always seeing their side and always agreeing with them. That's not the person they're pulling away from. They're pulling away from the person who disagrees with them. People don't want to be married to somebody who's holding a gun on them. “You owe me love because we're married. You've got to love me because we're married.” No, no. You've got to get rid of the hostility before their good feelings can show. And their hostility may seem to you like it's totally independent of anything that you do. No! You are supporting their negativism by your attitude of needing and pressuring and whining and complaining, and trying to argue for your way. Just enthusiastically see it their way. You're happy to do whatever they want. Wow! That takes the props totally out from under their hostility. And so we want to continue this attitude. You are acting secure now. When you say, “You're the only one that I can love, you're the only one that I can be happy with, you're the only one,” you're really saying, “I'm a pea-brain. I can't really see that the world is full of beautiful women or good looking men. I can't see that. I don't have any confidence at all. Don't you want me?” No, they don't. “I have no self-esteem, no nothing. Don't you want me?” And the answer is no. 4. Pessimism. We become addicted to our pessimism. I once had a man say to me, “I know I can't win. You don't know my wife. She's very stubborn. She never changes her mind." I say, “Never? About anything?” “Well, maybe about minor things, but not things this important.” I said, “Well, I think it's about something this important is precisely what she has changed her mind about. She originally said she was going to stay with you and love you forever. And now, she can't stand you. So obviously, she's changed her mind. So obviously, she does change her mind.” But people fall in love with pessimism. That's one of the strategies that never work...but people always try them! Now, here are...